I have read hundreds of self help books. This book outshines them all. It is an illuminating read whether you are the man or the woman in an emotionally blocked relationship. This book hits the nail on the head and really helps you understand how dysfunctional beginnings can dictate all of our primary relationships throughout our entire lifetime, unless we do something about it. I loved this book and have purchased five copies to give to friends.
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This book is fantastic. It is the only book I've found that provides help for men on becoming emotionally available. All the other books I've seen are from the women's perspective and not very helpful. The book provides very concrete exercises and steps to follow. It also goes into how we became emotionally unavailable. It is helping me save my marriage and all other interpersonal relationships.
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Awesome book! I highly recommend this to all married people. Patti Henry has an incredible insight to healing and marriage. You will be glad you read this one!
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I don't know what made me read this book, I have never heard of it before but I am so glad I did. I have learned a lot about myself and past relationships I have had. I am divorced but still have an amicable relationship with my ex and think that if we had this book it might have really helped us work on our relationship. The book talks to you without all the psyhco babble, it is clearly and concisely written....it speaks to you, not at you. After I read the book, I wrapped it and gave it to my ex as a gift hoping that he reads it. Thank you Patti Henry for telling it like it is.
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I am not currently in a relationship but I am on a personal quest to better understand myself and my relationships with men.
I bought this book because at some point I have realized that I seem somehow to attract emotional unavailable men and therefore I needed to know why.
I read this book on the day I received it, although I had some things to to that day, I just could not stop :)
I burst into tears a few times and I had a lot of those "aha moments"
as I understood not only why I attract these men, not only why they are emotionally unavailable but also that I need a LOT of healing myself.
So, yes it is a great reading and I do believe it is not only for relationship healing but also, if not more, for self-healing.
This book is also good for parents, who unintentionally might raise boys (children) into "emotionally unavailable" adults.
Enjoy it! It is indeed a valuable book.
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What an AMAZING book!!! This is a MUST READ for relationship issues, especially concerning emotional incest. Both me & my husband have read the book, and are putting it to practice. Patti Henry's style of writing is incredibly user friendly- it's chock full of information and unbelievable insight. What a difference it has made in our lives! I love that the book is separated into two parts- MAN & WOMAN. Her book is absolutely a sure way into understanding why our partner is the way he/she is and also, what role we play as the other half in our relationships. I have learned so much- not to take their bait, how to talk/argue to/with my partner, that it really isn't me, how to love better, and have begun my own journey of how my past is effecting me as an adult. It's all good!
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I have read most of this book and would recommend it to clients. It really helps to describe how men become "unavailable" due in part to childhood experiences and provides exercises to work on changing these patterns. It is also helpful that there is a woman's side so that she can gain understanding of herself, her partner, and to see if there is hope for intimacy in the relationship.
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The books offer concrete, cut-to-the-chase explanations and suggestions. Many self-help books offer a lot of warmth, support, and compassion, which are all very helpful. This book however lays down what has to be done to get better result, i.e. better marriage. Ms Henry offers several suggestions, but I think her central theme of self-definition, personal integrity are right on. No therapy, self-help, can work without commiting to these values. This is a book for people who are motivated to take an honest look at themselves and their marriages.
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