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This book was amazingly helpful as I am the hurricaning wife, and it gave me tools to actually do that worked on saving my marraige. My husband read it and agreed that was why our dynamic was the way it was. We are much happier now by understanding what to do when fights start to occur. Sooooo grateful I found this book!

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I completely relate to the material that Ms. Henry portrays on the day in day out basis.

I'm glad to have finally found a book that tells it from the male perspective.

Plus, I love the way the book is set up! The flip book style is fun!

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This book provides easy to grasp concepts that outline the problems and potential solutions for couples who lack emotional closeness due to the man's unavailability. Instead of blaming the man however, the intent is to educate both partners from each other's point of view, so that each can work on his or her own self to improve relationship connections. One of the few books my husband feels really "gets" him, and inspired him.

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My husband and I are eternally grateful to Patti Henry for writing this book. It profoundly changed our marriage and, I believe, potentially saved it from deterioration before it even had a chance to get off the ground. While I was dating my husband, it appeared his heart was open to me and that I was the woman of his dreams, but shortly after we got married, I experienced a clamming up with him. He just didn't seem to trust me. He wasn't open, and he became very defensive at every little thing. There was a distinct emotional disconnect. The more I tried I tried to bring him back, the more I felt I was pushing him away and losing him. I had no idea how to work with him or deal with him. The tension escalated, and very soon neither of us was having the marriage we had hoped for or dreamed of.

Now, I knew he was abused as a child by one of his parents, and I was all too aware of the emotional challenges that brought. I had my own past wounds too. But I was not expecting the heated arguments my husband and I had after we got married as they hadn't been there before. It was so disappointing and heartbreaking, to say the least.

Then I found this book on Amazon. I began reading it myself, and my husband immediately noticed a change in me, a hope, an enthusiasm, a light in the tunnel neither he nor I had seen before. I told him it was because of this book, and he became curious.

So now my husband and I are reading this book faithfully every day, and it has changed our lives, changed our marriage, changed me and changed my husband, a man I was concerned about being so set in his ways due to his age, but he wasn't. He was open to change because he was at the end of his rope too. He cared about our marriage and me and himself that much, and I am so proud of him. He knows that I feel he is the bravest man I've ever met. The transformation is beautiful. He loves me. He trusts me. His guard is down. He's open, and I credit this masterpiece of a book for that.

Reading this book and practicing the tools have brought new life to me and my husband, much simpler and cheaper than months and months of therapy! I see a sparkle and joy and, most of all, security within my husband that I had never seen previously. The hang-ups are falling away, all his fears of intimacy and the armor of protection which kept us both from truly experiencing love together in the deepest sense. As for myself, well, I am all too conscious now of my hurricane, and the last thing I want to do is impose that on the people I love or anybody else, for that matter. This book gave me the knowledge of my hurricane and the tools of how to recognize it, deal with it and to prevent it from happening as it is so unproductive and disrespectful of myself and everyone around me.

So my husband and I thank Patti Henry for this gem of a book which has accomplished something very special on a spiritual level to make this world a better place, beginning in our little universe, by unlocking the heart of a man who has so much love to give and receive. We are finally free of the fear and free to truly and deeply love. We can't recommend this book highly enough. It IS definitely a blueprint for healing.